A toast to hope
It’s a very age old belief that we should make our actions
right. The good results follow. We should not think of results- we should think
of our actions. Well… ideally? Maybe it’s true. In my life, whatever I have
tried to do with a detached mind, I have got good results for it. But truly, is
it possible to detach yourself from EACH and every job you do?
In our workplace, we do expect a good salary in return for
our work. For every job well done, we expect someone to appreciate. If it were
not so, painters would not sell their paintings, musicians wouldn't work hard
on their music. A farmer toils in his fields and expects a good crop. If the harvest
is not good, his hard work is all washed away. Why? He could detach himself
from his deed, consider himself lucky that he could be a worker for nature and
forget about the harvest. Why does he have to wait for his actions to yield? Because,
he has to live. To survive on this earth, the farmer has to get a good yield,
the painter... The musician- they have to get money in return for their art. In
order to live, we need our expectations fulfilled.
So is true in relationships. We put in our efforts and
expect something in return – a smiling face, two loving words, some trust and
understanding. Is it wrong to do so, if we have expectations in all other
aspects of life? I know, ideally in a relationship, you should keep fulfilling
your duties with the knowledge that no one will notice. I even heard somewhere,
the notion that whatever you do for others, devote that to God. But we are
humans, not saints. Human beings are eventually bound to have hopes. Then it’s
very difficult to keep on putting efforts with your intentions being doubted
every time and your efforts being overlooked.
But, then again, we are humans… and humans need HOPE to
survive. And so we continue to hope- that somebody is looking upon us, that our
feelings will be taken care of eventually, that even if everything goes wrong,
we’ll come out of it stronger and wiser – cheers to HOPE.
I like it, I am sending another article that you may find interesting.
ReplyDeletehttps://dsoulcafe.wordpress.com/2014/10/22/the-shifting-relationship-needs/
yeah, I've read this article... its a nice, insightful article about relationships.
DeleteI disagree with a few bits. For instance the example that you have given about a musician and painter doing what they love but still expecting money in return. I understand your logic in one's workplace and the life of a farmer. But I think their case is very different from the way artists look at their work. A true artist does not consider his work, work. A true artist paints or makes music for the love of it - in fact, they hate going through the process of 'marketing' their products, because they didn't make art to sell (unless it is specifically commissioned), they made it because they were moved from within.
ReplyDeleteWhen something becomes a 'work' it does not feel like Art because you have to cater to the needs of the audience (or clients). You will be asked to make changes to your piece of art, which no artist likes because it meddles with their LOVE for what they do.
Now coming to relationships, when you love someone, truly love, you must not expect things in return. When you love your kid, do you love because you hope that she will give you something back? You don't. Because love is not meant to be that way. And perhaps that is why a mother-child relationship is the purest of all. It is difficult to not have expectations, but that IS the key to stay happy, and not give someone else the burden of your happiness.
Long time ago I had read an interesting article on marriage, give it a read :)
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/marriage-isnt-for-you_b_4209837.html?ir=India&adsSiteOverride=in
yesss... point taken ma'am!! :-)
Deletefirst of all, I loved the article... the notion,' marriage and love is about the other person and not you' is really thought provoking.
But, that's the whole point of my blog- that's the idealistic thought... everyone SHOULD think like that... but we're all humans, and are not always able to detach ourselves- in other words,we become selfish... we generally hate to associate our happiness with a person or a thing- because we know that it's futile - but end up doing the same :-)